- The accomplishment of an aim or purpose.
- The attainment of popularity or profit.
- The state or condition of being liked, admired, or supported by many people.
My sweet baby girl,
I want to talk to you about success and popularity. They seem to be the currencies of our time and in the coming years you will face the choice of doing the right thing or doing what is popular, and too often these two things are not in alignment with one another. I hope you always choose to do the right thing.
You ask me how you will know what is the right thing to do. My answer is always the same : slow down and listen to your breath, listen to your heart. When you slow down, the right choice becomes clear. Very few decisions cannot wait a minute, an hour or a night’s sleep. Take your time. Always err on the side of friendship and family but make sure you are able to recognize who is well meaning and who just wants their needs to be met.
I know you feel all kinds of delight when the third grade boys call you ‘cute’. I am pretty sure popularity is something you will seek and that makes me worry about the decisions you will make as you get older. I know you can’t help it if they call you cute and pretty, and you are those things but you are more than those things. Much much more. You are kind. You are caring. You are loving. You are a good friend.
Popularity and success mean nothing if you do not live your life in truth. We are just given this one precious life. And as we have seen with our own family, all too soon many of us reach the end and have to grapple with wondering if our life meant anything. I know we won’t measure our life by our financial success or our popularity with our peers. So what do we measure our life in? I think we measure it by the people in our lives, the connections and memories and time spent together. We measure it in love.
Don’t compare your path to that of another person. We have no idea the journey that other people went on to get to where they are now. Comparing is just a recipe for unhappiness. Someone will always have more success and be more popular. So what? Live your life with integrity and garner respect because of experience. There really are no shortcuts so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Pretty is as pretty does my love. And I know you have the heart and the courage to be beautiful.
Dear readers, now go forth and enjoy the beautiful, dream like photography of Val Spring of The Red Balloon Photography and see some beautiful photos of her daughters. Val, because of this blog circle of love letters, I have come to know you friend.. and it is a privilege to take part in this project with you. xo